A Warm "Thank you"

What an incredible last 24+ hours. I am so grateful for all of you who took the time to write messages. I have received such kindness and support from you and greatly appreciate those who courageously told your own difficult stories. You cannot know fully how much it means to me to read such thoughtful notes. I’ve read each and every comment multiple times and will continue to reread them.

I also learned something through this process. That while it is fun and easy to blog about the shiny, pretty and fluffy side of my life, that is not my only reality. I learned not be afraid of writing my truth which may be on a subject that is not upbeat, or cheerful or puts me in the most favorable light.

Without readers who I feel I can trust, I would not have allowed myself to open up and be vulnerable to criticism and judgment, of which I felt neither. And for that, I thank you all.

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It’s been about two months now since the wine bottle and I parted ways. Honestly, it was easy to do because I was under doctor’s orders. I was and still am terrified of triggering an episode, so what may look like a strong will and self-discipline is really just fear.

At the same time I gave up alcohol, I gave up caffeine which, pardon my language, sucked. What horrible headaches and body aches I had. It felt like a flu. My doctor warned me that I would feel poorly for about  a week or so, but I didn’t realize how rotten it would be.

I have since introduced a small amount of caffeine into my daily life. I have a cabinet full of beautiful teas I bought in Paris that I can’t imagine not enjoying. As long as I keep the amount of caffeine to a minimum, I have no issues.

It has been an interesting last couple of months. I checked my calender today and realized it’s been 60 days without even a drop of wine in my system. I wanted to briefly share what’s changed.

Physical changes:

~ Weight loss. This is first because it’s my favorite! I wanted to post this photo a couple of weeks back because I thought I looked thinner in it, but my face looks funny. Ignore the goofy facial expression and look instead at my legs (yes, I am showing off). I have lost about 7 to 10 pounds, depending on the day. My clothes feel looser and overall, I feel much lighter.

Initially, I thought I would drop 10 pounds in a week or two. Why on earth I would think such a thing is a mystery to me. If I do the math (3500 calories equals a pound. Two glasses of wine is about 250 – 300 calories). At a 300 calorie deficit per day, it would take over a week to lose one pound. Slow weight loss is the way to go anyway, so I am happy it’s taken its time.

~ Tummy is flatter: Love that!

~ Better sleep: I still rarely sleep through the night because I sleep with two Yorkies who cling to me for warmth even in July. But I can get back to sleep with ease instead of lying awake worrying like I used to. Plus, I wake up more refreshed than when I would drink wine the night before.

~ Skin is more clear: I am rolling my eyes as I type this because I currently have a break out on my jawline (thanks, hormones), but for the most part, my skin is very clear since I no longer imbibe.

Socially:

~ Saying dumb things: I rarely say stupid stuff anymore and if I do it was simply a mistake that any clear headed person would make. I used to cringe the next day after a party when I thought I may have looked like an idiot, or offended or misunderstood someone.

~ Bored at parties: My attention span for social events is about half what it used to be. Is this a good thing or a bad thing? I don’t know. It just is.

~ Friendships: I thought I might lose some of my friendships with people who drink. And there are a few I haven’t seen or told about my A-Fib, so I am not entirely sure what the future holds for those relationships. So far, of the friends who know, everyone has been supportive. I haven’t had anyone tease me or push drinks on me and I still have a social life, we just do what we used to do and I drink mineral water.

Other:

~ Financially: I’m not buying wine anymore which saves us a good chunk of money, as I had somewhat expensive tastes ($15- $40 per bottle). Restaurant bills are much less too.

~Outlook: My future looks brighter than it ever has. I feel positive, I feel free, and in control. I am excited – very excited – about life.

I can’t finish this post without mentioning that my sweet husband voluntarily stopped drinking at the same time to support me. He has lost about 12 pounds, looks ten years younger and also feels as fantastic as I do. Bill quitting with me has brought us even closer and made my challenges less difficult. Thank you, Honey, for being such a compassionate and loving partner.

This is the only recent photo I have of the two of us. We were just leaving for a fundraiser last Wednesday night and I asked Tori to take a few shots. This is the only “good” one as the camera was not loving us that night.

Thanks for taking the time to read.
I will resume normal blogging tomorrow
with another Homemade Friday.XO,

Adrienne

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61 Comments

  1. July 28, 2011 / 11:21 am

    I think that if anyone gives you crap about it, they’re not worth it. It’s not like someone who is giving up “all fats” or some such nonsense. Your health is important. A good friend is going to want you to live a long time!

    Sadly, this pregnancy has not helped with the things I say from lack of alcohol. In fact, if anything, my opinions are beginning to come out more readily (usually because they push me to share why I’m not saying anything…when I’m not saying anything because of the Thumper principle).

    Oh, and since you’ve switched to more teas, I might tell you I have a friend who uses her french press for tea instead of coffee. Just an idea! I am sad to admit I still haven’t sewn on the buttons, but am giving myself a deadline of Sunday. Sorry!

  2. July 28, 2011 / 11:26 am

    You look fantastic! It must have been so hard to give up wine when it’s basically been a part of your social life style for so long, like it is with many people. Have you replaced it with anything? I had to give up diet pop and then pop (“soda” is what Americans call it)altogether because of some stomach issues I was having and I used to drink at LEAST 2 cans a day so it was hard for me at first. But I feel so much better and my stomach has calmed down. I now drink Iced Tea : )

  3. July 28, 2011 / 11:36 am

    Wahoo! You know what I think about it all so I wont repeat it here ;o)

    Looking forward to seeing what you made this week :O)

  4. July 28, 2011 / 11:50 am

    You look amazing and are a beautiful person inside AND out…and those legs..woo hoo! Looking good indeed!!
    I always say its quality over quantity, I would rather have a few really good honest loyal love me for me friends than a bunch of fair weather phonies who want me when times are good but scramble when things get rough. You know through trying times who your friends are and its kind of like survival of the fittest. Cannot imagine giving up my beloved coffee!! I have kind of given up wine only because I suffer horribly from migraines and there is a strong link between wine and bringing them on and sure enough it seems every time I had wine sure enough a headache would come on..not fun! So I am living without wine….and surviving, lol. Thanks for a wonderful thought provoking post! Keep up the great work.

  5. July 28, 2011 / 12:09 pm

    @Kate So far no one has given me any flack – a little ribbing here and there, but nothing that offended me. I do have some friends that I imagine will be less than thrilled that I no longer drink.

    I can’t completely avoid sticking my foot in my mouth, but it does happen much less frequently. What is the Thumper principle? I will have to look that up.

    I still drink a little coffee each morning – half decaf – so your cozy will be put to use. I will try using the press for tea…great idea! xo, A

  6. July 28, 2011 / 12:19 pm

    @Marie a la ModeI replaced wine with San Pelligrino and ice tea, like you. I bought some fancy ice tea at Dean and Deluca’s and Whole Foods and make batches almost everyday.

    I also drink coconut water and I have a thing for popsicles made with natural ingredients that I buy at the local gourmet grocery store or Whole Foods.

    Giving up caffeine – in the form of coffee or soda – is horrible if you’ve been relying on it to perk you up. My whole body ached – especially my neck, legs and back. It was very weird actually.

    I think once the weather turns this fall, I start drinking a lot more hot tea as opposed to ice tea. For now, ice tea is my main liquid treat to myself.

  7. July 28, 2011 / 12:21 pm

    @Suburban Princess Yes, I do know what you think and I thank you for kicking me in the arse – in a good way – during that time period and in the weeks leading up to it. Hugs 🙂

  8. July 28, 2011 / 12:30 pm

    @The enchanted home As I grow older, I find the quality vs quantity theme applies in nearly every aspect of my life – people included.

    I love coffee too. Nothing fancy, just a good strong cup of joe to start the day. I still have one mug of half decaf in the morning and haven’t had any issues.

    I’ve read that there is most definitely a link between headaches/migraines and red wine. Some people with a certain genetic makeup are sensitive to a compound found in red wine. If you are one of those people, drinking red wine is just not worth it! Who wants to have a migraine? I know I don’t.

    Thank you for your kind and supportive comments. xo

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  10. July 28, 2011 / 12:41 pm

    Adrienne, you sound like you are doing really well with all the changes and you also sound like you are feeling healthier which is always good thing. I am currently drinking about once a month, which is a lot for me (as I am about to leave London to move back to Australia, so lots of goodbyes and getting my party animal side out of my system) but before that I rarely drank and even went for a whole year without it and I must say that the drinking friends do start to disappear, however my experience has been that when you do stop drinking the friendships which really count are still there. Also my husband and I use to have a long running joke – whatever he spent at the pub with mates was equivalent to what I could spend on shoes! Fifi x

  11. July 28, 2011 / 12:44 pm

    Wow! I’m so thrilled for you. 60 days is a long time–enough for a new habit to develop, which I think has been the case for you. And those legs! Those LEGS! (wolf whistles galore) If I stop drinking, will I get legs like that (says the 5’4″ gal with the too long waist)?

    This certainly has been a difficult time in your life, and I’m glad you’re blogging about it–it’s important. Sorry I missed your post yesterday, even when being on the lookout.

    xoxo

  12. July 28, 2011 / 12:44 pm

    Adrienne,

    What a positive outlook you have on all of this. The more you say about Bill, the more I understand how two people really can deserve one another-as you two surely seem to. Not every spouse would be willing to do this. He gets another three golden stars in my book!

    By the way, you are stunning. Geez, what more could one even begin to say about that? As my 76 year old father says when he is impressed-you are “first class”.

    xo

  13. July 28, 2011 / 12:53 pm

    @Fifi BFifi! I didn’t know you were moving back to Australia. That must be stressful for you, but I hope it’s a happy move, a move your are looking forward to.

    I do think the true friendships will remain and grow into even better friendships. What is a relationship based on drinking worth anyway? Not much.

    I love that joke you have with your husband. So funny… you probably meant it too!

  14. July 28, 2011 / 12:57 pm

    You are fabulous–PERIOD

    that is all

  15. July 28, 2011 / 12:59 pm

    @Aesthetic Alterations I do think not drinking has become a habit. Of course I have been thinking about it loads since I started writing yesterday’s post, but other than that, I don’t give it much thought. Our routine just doesn’t include it anymore.

    Love the leg compliments…thank you! I will trade some leg length for your enviable rear end 🙂

    It has been a hard time, but it gets better everyday. And thanks to friends like you, I had plenty of wonderful people to talk to during the more difficult times. xo

    P.S.I wonder why my blog isn’t updating like it should. Was it not refreshing in your reader? Fojoy told me it wasn’t showing up in her reader either. Darn it!

  16. July 28, 2011 / 1:04 pm

    @Julia Julia,

    Can you believe how selfless he is? He loves to have a cold beer or two, especially after spending a hot day out in the yard or working on the house. But he willingly gave it up and hasn’t complained once. He has been getting lots of compliments lately. There is an elderly woman down our street – in her late 80’s or so – who tried to set him up with her granddaughter. She referred to him as the nice fireman on her street who is in his early 30’s! Isn’t that funny?

    Thank you for the “first class” reference. I think it’s so cute that your dad says that. xo, A

  17. July 28, 2011 / 1:17 pm

    Ooh la la! Great photo of you! Glad to hear you are both reaping the benefits of your more healthful lifestyle!

  18. July 28, 2011 / 2:10 pm

    I think you look stunning in that black dress. Just stunning. Leigh

  19. July 28, 2011 / 2:15 pm

    Well, don’t you look just awesome! (not that you didn’t before!) I have noticed when I cut back on wine my weight stays down and I’m not bloated! I’ve also heard about the clearer skin connection.

    Oh, and I was laughing when you were talking about saying the wrong thing at a party. That’s why I try not to drink too much and I also get very clumsy!

    I think I mentioned to you before that if I had to give up wine or coffee, it would be the wine. But both?? Now that would be just downright HARD! However, when I was told last year I had the early stages of osteoporosis in my spine, I had no choice but to cut back on the Starbucks and the wine. (both leach calcium from the bones) And like you, I said no, no, no to taking the meds & just upped my calcium and Vit D. So anyway, I haven’t eliminated these things completely but at least dropped the consumption probably by 50%.

    When we get together next month, I will have no problem abstaining from drinking while in your company. I am in a different mindset than I was 10 years ago, I will be limiting my consumption even while in wine country!

    Linda

    P.S. I poured myself exactly 4 oz. of wine last night…it’s not alot. So I probably have been drinking closer to the equivalent of 6-8 oz. Thanks for the reminder!

  20. July 28, 2011 / 2:32 pm

    congratulations on quitting adrienne. the photo of you in the dress is so beautiful. glad your health is back on track. w/o our health nothing else really matters does it? again congrats!!!!!!!!

  21. July 28, 2011 / 3:02 pm

    You are fabulous, and you changed lives yesterday, I’m just convinced of it!

    xoxo —
    Marsi

  22. July 28, 2011 / 3:36 pm

    I’m so happy for you and your husband. What a good man to quit with you 🙂 I recently gave up coffee (I’m on day 8) and I know what you mean about the first few days being rough! I wanted coffee just to stop the horrible caffine heachaches, not even for the flavour of coffee itself! But, now I feel great and I don’t even crave it anymore. And, just like your added bonus, I feel like my skin is clearer and brighter. Here’s to living healthier lifestyles!!!

  23. July 28, 2011 / 3:53 pm

    I could give up wine much easier than coffee. I only have one cup a day but it’s a BIG cup and it is special to me. When I drink de-caf I find myself not wanting any coffee at all. That’s one vice I’m going to keep unless it is detrimental to my health, of course. Plus I did enough drinking of alcoholic beverages in my younger days to last me a lifetime, as you well know. I like talking about real issues and I thank you again for bringing them up. I think it bonds us together as women and human beings.

  24. July 28, 2011 / 7:34 pm

    Do you have one of those tea cupboards that smells like a spice market when you open it up? Ours does. I really need to stop drinking caffeine…as I suffer from terrible insomnia.

  25. July 28, 2011 / 8:21 pm

    Congratulations, Adrienne!!! You really do look great in the photographs!! Honestly, you rock!!! I really liked your blog when I first stumbled upon it, but now I have tons more respect for you, you have such a great attitude to the ups and downs of life. And you must be so proud to have a husband like that!! Keep up the great work!!

  26. July 28, 2011 / 8:50 pm

    Dearest Adrienne,

    Wow, those are great photos! It makes such an impressive come-back after your previous posts… What a great way to underline what you wrote about. Not just some emotions but FACTS and you gave us proof of your words!
    Be proud of yourself as you look absolutely gorgeous and so healthy; look at your shiny hair…
    Enjoy a lovely weekend together (both well deserved!) and lots of love,

    Mariette

  27. July 29, 2011 / 12:09 am

    Dear A
    Good for you. I am glad you have found the answetr to your health issues- I wish you luck. You look SENSATIONAL!!!!!!!!!!!! xxxx

  28. OMG!!! I missed the previous post and am lost with this discussion. I’m off to read the preceding post and will be back sweetheart xx

  29. OMG Adrienne. Just went back and read the previous post and am shocked. I’m shocked for many reasons:
    i) you were a normal, social drinker and your lifestyle epitomises the wine-drinking lifestyle here in Spain. But I’ve never heard of this connection.
    ii) Hubby has flutters every now and then, and I’m wondering if it is the same condition (altho’both of us are teetotal which is a little ironic).

    Adrienne, you and I are similar age and I am sure most of your blog followers are within the same range. PLEASE can I urge all you lovely women to read the Suzanne Somers book ‘Ageless’. It is terrifying what medication/drugs the medical profession (in cahoots with the pharmaceutical companies) ply us with when we reach a certain age . Read this book, become terrified and then angry, then take control of the next stage of your life.
    Above your comments box you say our comments “make my life richer”. Please may I say your blog,informatiive posts, authenticity and sincerity make MY life richer. I feel honored to call you a cyber-buddy. Hugs from Spain sweetheart xx

  30. July 29, 2011 / 5:04 am

    The two last posts have been great, I’m glad you shared all of this and I’m glad to know about it. I drink wine, usually on the weekends, but your story is giving me something to think about. I hope everything continues to improve for you physically and hello, those legs! Yowza, you look smokin’ hot. I love that your husband stopped drinking wine with you. What a great guy! I would have to have that support too, my husband is right there with me and the wine glass on the weekends.

  31. July 29, 2011 / 7:16 am

    We were obviously inspired to write about this at the same time! I didn’t mention the financial part! Savings are great, especially on those dinner tabs with expensive wines. It is pretty awesome isn’t it?

  32. July 29, 2011 / 8:09 am

    Bravo! I think it’s amazing that you shared all of this with us. I know a few women who have the same thing. It’s very scary.
    You both look fantastic.

    xoxo
    Karen

  33. July 29, 2011 / 8:43 am

    Wow you look fabulous!
    I think that Bill is a true gentleman to have stopped drinking wine to support you, that is LOVE!

    Take care Adrienne and keep sharing…
    happy or sad it’s a genuinel life that we share.

  34. July 29, 2011 / 8:50 am

    I am so glad that you are seeing so many benefits!
    It makes giving up wine a little bit easier.
    I know it was the same when I had to cut down on fatty foods (and I LOVE fatty foods).
    Though I am in awe that you gave up caffeine cold turkey. I have succombed to those headaches in the past.

  35. Anonymous
    July 29, 2011 / 9:06 am

    Thanks for sharing your story, Adrienne. It’s very thoughtful of you to share something like this with your readers. (I’m just a lurker, but I feel like I know you and all the other lovely bloggers and no one knows anything about me–because I don’t keep up with my blog! Le sigh.) You have been on my mind. I am glad that you are reaping some wonderful benefits and making the best of your situation. It is refreshing to see such a positive, proactive response to an illness. I salute you and appreciate you!

    🙂 Gigi

  36. July 29, 2011 / 9:09 am

    Sounds like so many positive things have come out of not drinking alcohol! Believe me when I tell you I have cringed several times over things that I have said while drinking – but I have learned some valuable lessons..Alex and I are in a social circle that always has alot of alcohol around, but truthfully I’m not a big drinker and lately feel better when I don’t – so usually I just drink Pellegrino or have some cranberry juice. My coffee is usually decaf espresso as I don’t need the caffeine, I just love the coffee flavor.

    When I started my blog, it was to have a break from all the stress in my life – illnesses and deaths and I just wanted “pretty and happy”. But as I read other blogs and noticed how they talked about their personal things in their life, I felt the need to do so too and when I did, it was amazing all the support I received. It was just nice to get things off of my chest. Happy to hear that you are doing everything in your power to lead a healthy life! Hugs and love to you! xxoo 🙂

  37. July 29, 2011 / 9:22 am

    @Cherie Thank you, Cherie. It is rare I like a photo of myself, especially a full length body shot. So even if my face looked funny, I had to post it.
    I am most definitely reaping the benefits of healthy living. It’s better than I imagined it would be!

  38. July 29, 2011 / 9:24 am

    @Hines-Sight Thank you, Leigh. Now if I only had a place to wear it besides our driveway 🙂

  39. July 29, 2011 / 9:31 am

    @LRS4AMANDA The bloat is mostly gone! I just hate bloat. It comes on so suddenly and can make you feel so unattractive.

    I have also upped my Vit D, but I don’t take any calcium but know that I should. I eat lots of green vegs and dairy, but at our age, that may not be enough. I did not know about the connection alcohol and caffeine have to our bones. Yet another reason to add to my already long list.

    Please don’t feel like you can’t drink in front of me. My other friends do and I barely notice.

    I think the recommendation is 4 or 5 ounces for wine. I, too, have measured and it is a paltry amount! There are 25 ounces (roughly) in a 750 ml bottle of wine. I should have been able to get 5 glasses out of a bottle, but it was almost always 4 or less.

  40. July 29, 2011 / 9:34 am

    @the gardener’s cottage You are right…health is our wealth. Without good health, we don’t have the ability to enjoy all the wonderful things in life. I love wine, but I love my health more.
    Thank you, Janet. xo

  41. July 29, 2011 / 9:36 am

    @LuxeBytes If that is the case, I have you to thank for encouraging me to “come out” and sharing your equally scary story. You and I are not alone. Thank you for your support, friend. xo

  42. July 29, 2011 / 9:41 am

    @Laura Good for you! Wasn’t it dreadful? You probably had an easier time because you’re so young. I remember giving it up when I was in my 20’s and it wasn’t nearly as awful.

    Don’t do what I did and get sucked back in to the coffee habit. I started to have a mug of half caff every morning and I really should quit. Not because it’s potentially irritating to my heart – because I don’t think on mug of half caffeine is – but I know it will slowly creep back into my routine and I’ll be drinking half a pot in no time.
    Congrats on your better skin!

  43. July 29, 2011 / 9:48 am

    @what’s her bucket I wouldn’t give up caffeine if it weren’t for my heart issue. I like coffee and I love black tea – all tea really.

    I do think you and I partied enough to get us through the rest of our lives (enough at Shanghai Kelly’s alone!)

    I also like discussing real issues. You know how women say they didn’t know parenthood (or childbirth for example) was going to be so hard, why didn’t anyone tell us? That’s how I feel about middle age – I have heard about the hot flashes and middle age spread but what about all the other things? The good things and the scary things. I don’t think this will be the last time I discuss these issues. We middle aged women are not invisible and we still have many years ahead of us, so why not get issues out into the open?

    Getting off my soapbox now 🙂

    Hugs to you!

  44. July 29, 2011 / 9:56 am

    @Terri Most of my teas are in tins – so I can’t smell them in the cupboard, but I can once I open the tin. I love to stick my nose in them and inhale. So fragrant!

    Caffeine can stay in our systems for many hours. Insomnia must be awful. I am sorry to hear you are suffering from it.

  45. July 29, 2011 / 10:05 am

    @beingFab Thank you! I have enjoyed your blog too. Admittedly, this week has been a little crazy so I haven’t been visiting my favorite reads much lately. But I will be catching up this weekend.

    I am very proud to have such a wonderful husband. I often wonder how I got so lucky in marrying him.

  46. July 29, 2011 / 10:09 am

    @Mariette’s Back to Basics Thank you, Mariette. I do feel like the best version of myself I can be with my recent health changes. And the same goes for my husband. He is looking and feeling better than ever.

    I owe my shiny hair to my wonderful hairdresser. She started using an ammonia-free color on my tresses that make my hair shiny and soft.

    I hope you also have a wonderful weekend and thank you so much for the blog award. I will be sure to pass it along to a few of my favorite blogs. xo

  47. July 29, 2011 / 10:10 am

    @Faux Fuchsia Oh FF! I haven’t heard from you in awhile and have missed your presence. So nice to get a message from you.
    And thank you, I feel sensational too. xo, A

  48. July 29, 2011 / 10:14 am

    @[email protected] I am sure there are many factors that converged to give me A-Fib. I had a virus and lots of stress at the time of my episodes. But not drinking has prevented me from having any more since the day after my diagnosis. Your husband may want to talk to his doctor about flutters. You can get them and not be a drinker too.

    I will get my hands on the Somers’ book. I am so wary of drugs – I barely take a Tylenol unless I am in a lot of discomfort. I find I am sensitive to just about every drug out there. Beta blockers made me a zombie.

    Thank you for your sweet comment. You are definitely a good friend to me and have been from the beginning. Big hug. A

  49. July 29, 2011 / 10:19 am

    @jill815 I know I couldn’t have done it so easily (stopped drinking) without Bill doing it too. The reason I know this is, I stopped coffee for a while, but he kept on drinking it. Now, I am back on coffee – just one cup and it’s half caf, but still! I couldn’t sit there and watch him enjoy it and not join him – plus, the smell was too much for me to handle.
    The buddy system really does work when it comes to giving up a habit.

  50. July 29, 2011 / 10:22 am

    @BODECI body It has been a huge change in both our lives. And isn’t it wonderful how life improves? Admittedly, I sometimes miss the taste of a great red wine. I think there will come a time when I can enjoy one now and then.
    I am happy to have you to share this experience with…xo

  51. July 29, 2011 / 10:25 am

    @Karen at French Skinny Hi Karen!
    It is more prevalent than I thought – in fact, I didn’t even know what A-Fib was until I was diagnosed.
    I get the feeling that most people want to keep it to themselves. I guess I am not one of those people!
    Have a wonderful weekend down there in southern California! xo

  52. July 29, 2011 / 10:35 am

    @hostess of the humble bungalow He is such an incredible husband. Very self-less. He even went dry on his birthday last month.

    Life is full of ups and downs and our blogs (lifestyle blogs like ours) are representative of how we live and are, in a way, journals of our lives. I am thankful I have such kind readers who I can trust with my difficulties.

    Have a terrific weekend. xo

  53. July 29, 2011 / 10:40 am

    @fojoy You pointed out an important out income in all of this: I am seeing so many benefits, it makes me want to keep on doing what I am doing and not return to my bad habits.

    I am back on a little caffeine, just not to the degree I was before. And so far, no episodes!

  54. July 29, 2011 / 10:44 am

    @Anonymous Hi Gigi, Although I don’t hear from you often, I do remember your comments from the past.

    I am feeling better than ever and happy, in a weird way, that I was made to change my ways before something really awful happened to my health.

    Thank you so much for your kind comments. Comments like yours really do make me appreciate having a blog and let me know I did the right thing by writing about my A-Fib. merci!

  55. July 29, 2011 / 10:53 am

    @Cathi Isn’t San Pelli the best? Bill and I have it every night with dinner. We stocked up again yesterday with 5 cases and keep them chilled in our wine fridge.

    I really dislike that feeling of ruminating the next day about what I said, how the person at the receiving end could have taken it, what do they now think of me….it’s exhausting! I am so glad that doesn’t happen anymore – and if it does, it’s just a little oopsies!

    It is therapeutic, in some ways, to blog about our real life experiences – our personal challenges. Several years ago, I worked with a life coach who encouraged me to write. I wasn’t the type to write for myself, but have really taken to writing for an audience. I don’t think I would have felt so comfortable discussing personal health issues (especially one involving alcohol) a year or even six months ago, but I feel I have such wonderful readers, I knew it would work out okay – better than okay.

    I have so enjoyed getting to know you a bit better and am hoping you give me ring next time you are north. xo, A

  56. Anonymous
    July 29, 2011 / 5:12 pm

    What a nice, complementary post to your first on this whole change in your life! You both look so good, and I love that your husband joined you in your teetolalism. He reminds me of my husband, who basically did the same thing when, some time ago, I went off alcohol for a year. Aren’t husbands wonderful?

    The positive side effects you’ve experienced have reinforced my resolution to keep alcohol to a bottle a week and to drastically reduce caffeine intake (a mug on Saturday morning?). Thank you for sharing the good as well as the bad.
    MMH

  57. July 29, 2011 / 9:09 pm

    @Anonymous MMH,

    Funny you mention Bill joining me in my abstention. Tonight we went out to dinner and he brought up this post saying that I shouldn’t think it unusual that he quit too. He told me he will always follow my lead and do what I do. I thought that was so cute! That is great to hear you also have a supportive husband.

    The positive effects from not drinking have been many. You just can’t beat a good night’s sleep, weight loss, more money in your wallet and clear (ish) skin. If there were a pill for that, I would take it!
    Have a wonderful weekend! A

  58. August 1, 2011 / 11:48 am

    Great to see this list of “pros!” I’m glad you’re able to find some positives in this situation. And kudos to Bill for doing this with you. He just seems like the nicest guy. It’s wonderful that you have him for support.

  59. August 3, 2011 / 2:34 pm

    @Mrs. Stranded Bill is the nicest guy. I realized how important his support by abstaining from alcohol is to me recently. Because he didn’t give up coffee like I did – eventually, the aroma and lure became too much for me and I started with a little half cup which grew to a full cup which sometimes was two cups. Last Sunday, I had a miserable bout of flutters and decided to once again, give up coffee. I can see how alcohol would creep back in to my life too if Bill still drank.

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