Hello there, friends and readers. I want to take a moment to check in and let you know we’ve had some big life changes in our family over the last two weeks.
As you may already know, my stepson was married to his sweetheart in Cambria early this month. Ryan and Hayley’s ceremony was so beautiful – the entire weekend was wonderful from start to finish. I will be sharing more photos from the wedding weekend here on the blog at a later date but here is one of my very favorites.
My father-in-law, Dave, was unable to attend the wedding due to failing health. We learned Dave was terminally ill about four years ago. He fought hard and managed to lead a comfortable life while undergoing treatment. But lately, his health began declining and mobility became an issue.
My husband moved in with his dad to care for him back in late March. I also spent the majority of my days and nights at his home, about an hour from our house. I am sad to report that Dave passed away Saturday, April 14th – the same day Bill’s mother Doris passed away seven years ago.
Dave will be sorely missed by all of us as he truly was the center of our family. He was always one to share all kinds of advice to his kids and grandkids about finances, home improvement, cooking, gardening, communicating, playing the Lotto and living life well. He was such a character. We are all so sad to have to say goodbye.
During Dave’s declining health my husband, Bill decided it was time for him to retire from his position as Deputy Fire Chief of Santa Rosa Fire Department. He was spending every day caring for his father and we didn’t know how long he would be living with his dad. Bill was with the fire service for 34 years and had been thinking about retiring for quite some time. We didn’t plan for him to retire quite so soon, but it was the right thing to do for us and for our family given the circumstances.
Retirement will be a huge change for both of us. I, for one, am thrilled he is retired! Although we don’t really know what retired life is like yet as so much of our days lately are focused on the upcoming funeral. But so far I enjoy having him home everyday.
Some of the things I love are not needing to set an alarm before bed, taking long walks anytime we want, no fire radios waking us up in the middle of the night and no more worrying about Bill being out on a wild land fire for many days or weeks at a time.
Having three big life events occur in the span of one week – both joyous and heartbreaking – is taxing and exhausting to say the least. I’m focusing on our family and taking care of myself and Bill during this time of change and adjustment but very much looking forward to the time I feel ready to get back to blogging regularly. I have so many things to share with you!
Thank you to everyone who has reached out with emails, texts and cards. It is much appreciated.